Is it okay if the girl makes the first move?

A friend asked me, “Sig, is it okay if a girl makes the first move?”
“Yeah, sure. Why not?”
“Parang ang flirt eh.”

Girls, let’s talk.

First of all, I get why you might think that a girl making a first move towards a romantic relationship with a guy is flirty. Our culture through tradition essentially screams of conservatism especially with girls. Also, we girls have this idea that we’re basically not meant to talk to a guy if we think he’s cute and we want them to have coffee or cheeseburger with us tomorrow while talking about everything from his Math grades to his life plans. Of course, doing such might make you labeled as flirt, and we don’t want that.

Anyway, what I don’t get is why you girls at this day and age ACTUALLY think that. I mean, it’s not that we’re losing conservatism, it’s just that we’re learning more and more each day that total conservatism is not gonna get us anywhere.

Dearies, we’ve changed. Girls aren’t only a symbol of beauty; we’re also a symbol of emotional strength. Celebrate our growth; indulge in the thrill that the great women before us have allowed. You’re thinking, “ano ba, Sig. Flirting lang, may pa-great women effect pa.” You’ll realize what I'm saying when you find out what I said.

“Sig, is it okay if a girl makes the first move?”

“Yeah, sure. Why not?”

“Parang ang flirt eh.”

“Dear, making the first move is a sign of confidence. If naiilang ka sa idea, it means you acknowledge that this is a big thing, and that’s mature. Asking the guy also means you’re mature enough to see that waiting like a Disney princess isn’t gonna get you anywhere, and mature enough to accept and decide that YOU have to work and take responsibility if you want this relationship. Confidence, maturity and responsibility makes a great woman.”

“A girl making the first move isn’t on the top of list of what the society thinks is best because it’s not what society is used to. Well guess what, we’re not the past, we’re the present. And the present affirms what girls can do in ways that the past hasn’t done. The “first move” is one thing.”

“There is no reason to think that flirting is bad in itself, as long as your purpose is not. There is something we call wholesome flirting which builds a relationship by having good, wholesome purposes like wanting to be friends, getting to know, etc.”

“Making a first move isn’t bad, as long as it gives you and the people around you the idea of your confidence, maturity, responsibility and good purpose.”